Dear mouse,
The boy from hell strikes again. My friend was summoned by the principal. Her nine-year old son hit a classmate-a girl who he said was bullying him. In her presence, the principal gave the boy a two-day class suspension but he’s going to come to class and report to the principal’s office where he can do his class work.
The principal knows that whatever concerns the boy should be made known in the presence of the parents.
This is now the issue that haunts the case of the eight year old boy who was charged of killing his father and the family’s renter.
Yesterday, I was changing channels when I came across the video of that boy being interrogated by the police officers.
The face of the boy was blurred and the transcript of the interrogation was being shown
In the screen.
The boy initially said that he found the bloodied body of his father and the other guy.
Several questions after, the boy was already making a confession for a premeditated double murder, answering leading questions such as:
So how many times did you shoot your father?
We really do not know if he is a murderer or not. But the fact that he was interrogated without the presence of any adult, a parent or a lawyer, the boy’s right was violated.
Even confessions of adult can be tossed from the evidences if the manner by which it was secured is not properly conducted.
Guilty as charged, I have Law and Order overload in my system.
The Ca t
para sa mga bagong salta again: if you have kids as young as this 8 year old, don’t be surprised that if you try to spank them the Filipino way as you were used to, your child will say “I will call 911 if you hit me” this is being taught in school here in the US so before you come here, discpline your kids without the use of the rod or tsinelas. I have an Indian co-worker and everytime she ask her kids to clean up their room she get this feedback from them. There is too much influence from their classmates, so you as parents should have discipline them using common sense and respect even if they are kids.
thanks lorena sa info.
di rin alam ng kaibigan ko yan kaya noong sinabi ng anak niya na I will call the police, bwisit siya.
napakahirap maging magulang dito sa US, lalo na kung single parent ka, you are working trying to give the best to your children and then you are faced with all these outside influences na we don’t experience if we are in our native countries. So parents from whatever country you have come from, read a lot especially about culture shock books when you get here, the library is free for all to use, but most of all, as a parent use your God given talent of your 6th sense and that is reading your children’s body language , habits, and activities, if they are showing any unusual personalities, talk to them, talk and talk, not demeaning conversations but supportive and understanding what they are going through
My nephew did the same thing here (threatened to call 911) when he was having his vacation here. I told him that this does not work here in the Philippines. Sometimes he resorts to “You’re not the boss of me!” and tell him, “O yes I am, because you are not earning (money)and I am!”
One time he said the F (and the finger) word to me, I gave him a sermon – told him that your parent did not send you to an American school to demean people; also told him have some common sense to analyze if it some actions (from their peers) are worth imitating. Kahit sa Amerika, unfortunately, me “gaya-gaya” mentality tayo, di maanalyze kung tama ung mga kinikilos or sinasabi, basta gaya na lang. Told my sister about his action and received the same sermon…ayy buhay….
kitty,
may mga bata na ganyan na-adopt na ang American way.
Pero marami rin akong kilala, disiplanado ang mga anak.
Meron naman na hindi nga palasagot pero mabarkada naman kahit sa edad na 12 at naglilipstick na.
kailangan talaga ang renda.
this is what I have asked my daughter when she was in high school and was being influenced by her peers: Ne, hindi ka sumakay ng Northwest para mag flip ng burger, ikaw ang pinakmaswerte sa inyong magpipinsan dahil ikaw na ang huling naipetisyon, wala ng iba na nakapetisyon dahil hindi ganoon ka responsable ang Lola ng mga pinsan mo, not like your Grandparents who really supported us. So please try to finish your high school, don’t get pregnant, don’t do any foolish thing and be put in juvenile jail. There will be kids who will listen and grasp the reality but there will be those who won’t, it will be up to the parents to be good role models, if the parents are acting happy go lucky, then of course the kids will also follow their footsteps. My child went to US Marines Bootcamp, she’s stilll in the service like her other very close friends who are either in the Navy or serving in the US Army.
wherever the children go, the parental guidance is one important factor in their discipline.
dito pag hindi nila kayang suportahan ang kanilang anak, iniiwan nila sa ospital o kaya ay sa simbahan kahit malalaki na.
so different from nigeria… the teacher actually told me to use the rod on my son to stop him from being so hyper. he is showing signs kse of ADHD which i hope he will outgrow.
anyways, hubby and i are discussing now whether babalik pa kme dun with him or not. only time will tell, i guess
Meron ba siyang diagnosis ? YOng boy from hell kasi ang diagnosis naman ay slow learner kaya siguro pagnafufrustrate, dinadaan sa outburst.
Sa akin naman ay DNA siguro. Kasi may mga pinsan siya na ganoon din.
sheilamarie: try alternative cures like meditation, yoga, organic diets, give him a pet that can mellow him down, just something to catch his attention like a bird, a rabbit, a turtle, here in the US they ahve these group of kids who go to marine mammal sanctuaries and they let these kids play with the dolphins and it helps. as much as possible don’t make your child be dependent on drugs, the condition might just escalate with all the mixture of drugs prescribed.
Cat, I’ve already brought him to a Developmental Pediatrician a few years ago. And she recommended that we bring him to a Center for Special kids to access him further. Unfortunately, he was still too young at that time to really know for sure, and that we had to travel back to Nigeria so I was only able to bring him to a couple of sessions with the therapist. I’ve got a history of ADD (I remember my Mum brought me to a Psychologist who tested me as well when I was around 6-8yrs.old… because I was always failing in class), so I guess you know where he got it from :P
LCM, hi! what I’m doing regularly is to massage him at night to relax him. He’s not that severe naman that it will require drugs. Hmmm.. I will try to look for a turtle or some pet that might help him mellow down. It’s ok to do that now since we’re here in Pinas already. Or maybe the new baby can do that for him? xD
lcm,
minsan kawawa yong pets, yong boy from hell, ginagawang target practice yong pusa. hahaha
sheila,
yon din ang ginawa doon sa boy from hell sa special class siya inilagay pero noong lumipat sila ng State, walang available na learning facilities na libre so enenroll niya sa regular class.
meron diyan sa pilipinas na mga special class at special teacher.
siguro maaoutgrow din niya yan.
nabasa mo ba ang aking elementary days kung saan pasaway din ako?
thats why i did not include a cat nor a dog, a cat has a mind of its own, while rabbit, a bird a turtle is stationery, kids will have different perceptions of these pets, either they are target practice or something to care for
doon sa boy from hell, baka gawing litson yong bird. hehehe
Ang lupit naman ng boy from hell sa pusa; di pa ba na file ng complaint na cruelty to animals yan ng kapitbahay? Alam ko kasi pwede dyan. (Note: pagnakakita kasi ako dito ng similar incident, pinapagalitan ko ung bata e).
hindi na. iniiwasan sila ng kapitbahay dahil pati ang mga anak nito sinasaktan niya.